Wedding guest messaging by text and WhatsApp

The six messages a wedding actually sends

Most couples think of "texting guests" as one thing, but a wedding really has a rhythm of messages, each doing a specific job. Knowing the arc ahead of time is half the battle — here is the whole sequence, with the kind of wording each one calls for.

The save-the-date goes out first, months ahead: "Save the date! Ava & Daniel are getting married June 6, 2026 in Napa. Formal invitation to follow." Then the invitation with the ask: "You’re invited! Tap to see the details and RSVP by April 15." A reminder follows for the quiet ones: "Just a nudge — we’d love your RSVP for June 6 by this Friday." Closer in, the week-of note carries logistics: "One week to go! Ceremony at 4pm, cocktails to follow. Dress code is garden formal." On the day, the short, urgent updates: "Shuttle leaves the hotel lobby at 5:15 sharp." And after, the thank-you: "Thank you for celebrating with us — it meant the world." Six moments, one tool.

• Save-the-date & invitation. Announce the date early, then send the formal ask with a one-tap RSVP link.
• Reminders & week-of logistics. Nudge non-responders, then send the timeline, dress code, and directions a week out.
• Day-of updates & thank-yous. A shuttle time or room change on the day, and a warm note once it is all over.

Send now, or schedule the whole sequence

You do not have to be at a keyboard when a message should go out. Fire an invitation the moment your list is ready, or queue the reminders and countdown notes in advance and let Duva send them on time — the "one week to go" message on the right Monday, the RSVP-deadline nudge the day before it closes. Reminders are smart about their audience, too: a scheduled nudge re-messages only the guests who still have not replied at the moment it sends, so it never reaches someone who answered yesterday.

Each message is personalized with the guest’s name and, where relevant, their own RSVP link, so nothing reads like a bulk announcement. The guest sees a note that looks written for them, because in every way that matters it was.

• Queue ahead of time. Schedule reminders and countdown notes and Duva sends each at the moment you set.
• Reminders re-target live. A scheduled nudge reaches only whoever is still unanswered when it fires.
• Personalized every time. Each message carries the guest’s name and their own link, never a generic blast.

Aim each message at the right guests

A group text to three hundred people is a slow-motion disaster: replies pile onto everyone, phone numbers leak, and half the room gets updates meant for the other half. Duva works from one master guest list and lets you narrow any send to exactly who should get it — by which event they are invited to, by which side of the family they belong to, or by how they replied.

So only the guests on the welcome-dinner list get the welcome-dinner details; only the reception "yes" list gets the seating text; only the people who have not RSVP’d get the reminder. Every message is one-to-one under the hood, so guests never see each other’s numbers and every reply comes back to you privately, not to the whole thread.

• By event. Message just the welcome dinner, just the reception, or the whole list — your choice per send.
• By RSVP status. Text only the confirmed guests, or only the ones who have not answered yet.
• One-to-one, always. No shared group chat; numbers stay private and replies come only to you.

One channel per guest, decided for you

You write one message; Duva figures out how to deliver it. It reads each guest’s number and sends by SMS to domestic mobiles and by WhatsApp to international ones, because that is the channel each group actually checks — a plain text for the guests at home, WhatsApp for the family scattered across other countries. You never sort your list by channel or send anything twice; a single send simply reaches everyone the way that works for them.

It is the reason a wedding with guests in three countries can run all its messaging from one place. Whatever channel a message went out on, the reply lands on the same dashboard next to everyone else’s.

• Text at home. Domestic guests get a normal SMS — nothing to install, nothing to sign into.
• WhatsApp abroad. International guests get the same message on WhatsApp, where they already are.
• One send, everyone reached. You never split the list or double-send; Duva picks the channel per number.

Multilingual and shared with your team

For weddings with elder or non-English-speaking guests, messages and the RSVP can go out in Hindi or Gujarati, so those guests read and respond without a relative translating. And because a wedding is rarely run by one person, you can invite a partner, a parent, or a planner into the same account to help send and manage the messaging — everyone working from one list and one thread history rather than forwarding screenshots around.

• English, Hindi, Gujarati. Reach every generation in a language they read comfortably.
• Team access. A partner, parent, or planner can help manage the messaging from the same account.

What messaging costs — the whole story

Here is the pricing in full, because this is where it matters most. Messaging is a single one-time $10 unlock. Once unlocked, the messages that carry your RSVP — save-the-dates, the invitation itself, and the automatic reminders that chase non-responders — never use credits on either SMS or WhatsApp, on top of a free wedding website, guest list, and unlimited RSVP collection. There is no subscription anywhere and no fee that grows with your guest count.

Credits exist for one thing only: the extra messages you compose and broadcast yourself that are not part of the RSVP flow — a day-of shuttle time, a venue change, week-of logistics, a thank-you note. Each of those costs one credit per recipient, the same whether it goes by SMS or WhatsApp and regardless of length. Unlocking these broadcasts is a one-time $10 purchase that includes 100 credits, and if a big wedding needs more, you buy a pack once — 500 credits for $40, 1,500 for $99, or 3,000 for $165 — and the balance never expires. Nothing is ever charged automatically unless you deliberately turn on auto-refill.

• RSVP messaging, zero credits. Save-the-dates, invitations, and reminders never use credits on either channel.
• Credits for your own broadcasts. Only the day-of and logistics notes you write yourself use one credit per recipient.
• Buy once, never expires. Packs at $40, $99, or $165 top up a balance that never lapses — no subscription.